I have a very interesting family dynamic and I’m sure I’m not the only one.
I could try to describe the relationships I have that I count as family, but it would almost be like trying to weave together webs from ten different spiders.
So, let’s just call it… Non-Traditional.
But here’s the funny thing, have you noticed, lately, how Non-Traditional has become, dare I say, Traditional?
So, what’s changed? What has evolved so that someone like myself–a single, no-grandparents-in-town, child of divorced parents–has to arrange attending four (or more!) family dinners on major holidays? Don’t even get me started on the mental, physical, and stretchy-wardrobe preparation required for attending four Thanksgiving dinners in one day!
I have a couple ideas:
- In a time when the marriage rates are decreasing and the divorce rates are increasing, people develop family-like relationships with people who have been long-standing fixtures in small support networks or communities.
- In a time when moving away from home is becoming more common, for whatever reason, people build new family-like networks.
- Reproduction. Okay, that’s a simplified way to put it, but you know what I mean. People have kids. Kids find partners. They have kids. Do you want me to draw out the bunny diagram?
I’m really curious what people think about the evolution of The Family.
What do you think? Why have Non-Traditional families become more Traditional in our culture?
What is your family dynamic like? How do you plan for major holidays?
And here’s the kicker: Do you think the Old or New Traditional is better?